and do I acknowledge I got the joke or do I ignore?
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M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
Bummer - I know weekends are slow on the boards, but now W texts me again that she is in Chicago airport. I realize there is no reason to answer this, but gosh just seems so rude. Even she as WAW would respond to me and I would have done the same to her to let her know where I was at on the travels back.
Still contemplating texting back on the pic of the food - again its a joke - I can joke back...
But don't know if I should.... Holding out but hoping for some vet advice here soon...
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
Thanks Greek! Perfect, I feel better not coming across as mad or rude. I can wait to joke about the leftovers I guess.
Anxiety here today, I guess cause W coming back home. Taking the girls swimming here in a little bit, get my mind off things, they will love it, it is the best means I have to GAL these days...with my girls.
Also took your advice yesterday and called a friend/co-worker about all the issues going on (other than R issues). Now its a little touchy, but I played it ok. Right now, he is work closely with W, for another 2 weeks. But we have been friends for a few years, working directly with W is a temporary project. I can tell though, he is a little suspicious if we are doing well or not...
He is actually someone I might consider confiding in, AFTER, project with W is done and they are no longer working together.
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
There might be one more person, long-time friend, but of course a little complicated in that his W and my W are just as close friends.
I'm certainly a little nervous about W coming home. I can be positive and friendly, that won't be the issue, I'm just wondering how she will be. I was shocked that she didn't call today, so I didn't even to get to hear her voice to get a hint at what she might be like. Also still slightly worried that I'll get blasted with the see you havent changed, you didn't want to talk with me speech. Saw her facebook post through another's account...implies she still didn't get any sleep...so that's not good.
W won't be home till late, so might not be able to post anything till tomorrow...will see...got to back to being cautious with the computer to ensure she doesn't find this site
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
I find a lot of LBH's on the board who are generally nice men with gentle mannors and they find it very difficult to not respond to TM/calls from the W. They see it as rude. But......you are detaching from her. Greek's answer is the best! Just a simple "K" and not one word farther or you'll be into a conversation. Breaking the habit of immediately responding to everything is difficult for you. You see responding to her "joke" as almost necessary, but I see it as an excuse to keep a contact going. You've got to get past this part of thinking you are being rude. Don't you consider having an A as being rude? Why would you be concerned that you are not showing good manners to a woman who has been unfaithful?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Its hard if you a mild mannered man not to reply so keep your replies to the minimum of politeness. As Sandi says she is not respecting you by having an A, so only return the equivilant amount of good manners back to her. Will be thinking of you awaiting her return I know I was seriously stewing when H returned so is there anyway you can be out and return after she has and make an entrance?
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I'm certainly a little nervous about W coming home. I can be positive and friendly, that won't be the issue, I'm just wondering how she will be.
I know you're feeling in over your head but try not to worry over her and focus on you. Be cordial when she gets home but not over the top. The fact remains taht she's in an A and you are not putting up with it
Originally Posted By: gutwrenching
Also still slightly worried that I'll get blasted with the see you havent changed, you didn't want to talk with me speech.
Your W is in an A and has no room to talk about you "not changing." If she starts ranting, listen, validate and remain calm. Also, offer up how you FEEL about it and walk away.
