What can I do to save my marriage? Help

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I won't give her the letter. It does go against what I wrote before. I can't be wishy washy. I felt that she seemed happy that I felt like working on the unconditional love and her attitude seemed to change for the better after I expressed my feelings. I am, however, going to continue with detachment. I am by no means bowing down to her and kissing her feet. I am just being a kind thoughtful person. I feel this is a strong atribute.

She has really gone out of her way to show me that she is not having an affair. Phone records are blank and she lays her phone out for me to see all the time. She doesn't go out at night and works 3 days a week. The rest of the time she says she either works out, goes to the store, or is with the kids. If she is having an affair she doesn't spend much time with it.

She got her hair done on Tuesday before she left for the race. Another concern or flag there though. She didn't have any sexy clothes packed in her bag.

I don't know. I want to trust her, but I guess I am also in denial too.

What can I do to take care of this? I have heard your opinions, but what is the best way to politically handle this situation?

I feel that her situation is a lot like Smartcookie's. She has her heart in a box, and she is afraid to let it out because she doesn't trust that I have changed. I want to show her that I have, and I trust that she stopped communication with the old BF when I discovered it.

She wants to sell the house. I want to stay in it until our relationship is back on track.