I've hit a wall.. Now what?

[MarkG]

Sorry for the confusion with the name change - security hack issues facilitated a new email address and I changed the screen name to match so I wouldn't forget!

o.O hack? I'm going to guess H guessed your password to spy.... This definitely shows he's a lot more dependent than he'd like to admit. Sorry for going off on a tangent if I'm wrong. You showed up to the forums a lot sooner after the separation than I did. That plus this sort of news is definitely making me hopeful for you.

I'm torn between just emailing him and telling him to file whenever - I don't care; and meeting with him so he can see more of the changes. Any thoughts?
Does anyone have insight for a WAH - I see alot in insight on WAW's - any WAH on this site who can shed some light?

As far as the discussion with WAH over D, don't push too hard. There's an analogy on here about "dropping the rope" - meaning let go of trying to control the situation and see what happens. Pushing for D hoping for reverse psychology is possibly going to make him think you have given up entirely. I think they'd call that tying the rope to a horse, slapping it on the behind, and making it run the opposite direction you want it to go. I emailed my WAW last night, and despite the negative response (which I expected), I feel it went in my favor. She got extremely emotional, OM got jealous, and I remained calm. The email was nothing more than setting boundaries, telling her I'm done waiting for the talk we were supposed to have "later" 2 months ago, and that it's still not too late to save the marriage but I am done committing to it until she is ready to. Being anti-D has failed and will continue to, being pro-D will possibly just speed it up, but being neutral while you work on you will be what, if anything, brings him back.