She doesn't care that you were worried about her, that you don't trust her or that you're disappointed in her. She doesn't care about you or your marriage right now. She's deep into an affair, and that's where her priorities are. Sad, but true.
Others will weigh in, but it's needy, pursuing -- and then you're telling her that her taking another trip will not happen again. Whether she takes another trip is NOT your decision - controlling.
It's ok to write a letter and get stuff off of your chest, but then throw it away.
Just my $.02.
Sorry, I know how much this hurts.
Tridoc,
I agree, do not send that letter. There is no need to explain you think shes having a PA,,,you know it and SHE knows it... you'd just be coming across as needy,(an issue I know from early in my sitch).
Just act..go see you attorney and start getting you bases covered.... Let me repeat myself, go get your attorney and get your bases covered..!!
I had several close friends counsel me thru the early stage of my WAW and I chose to not listen to their protective advise an gave the W the benefit of the doubt. Wrong tactic! You can always throttle back, but she is cake eating and game playing... you need actions here doc, not words in a letter
DD
H50 W44 M17 yrs S15 D11 D10 Bomb 4/09 Trial separation/moved out 9/09 Moved back in 12/29/09
