That sounds really tough. Maybe it would help if you and your H could talk about how to make the transitions easier for your children? If you can't talk about it constructively, there are psychologists who could help you work on coparenting plans. Or read some Gordon Neufeld, a wonderful expert on attachment. He has a lot of good ideas of how parents can cultivate attachment with their children, even when parents aren't living together. "Hand-offs" of childcare are very important times where one parent needs to hand over the "baton of connection" to the other parent.
My 3 yo would not be able to do an overnight without me and so we're not doing that. I am grateful that H is not (yet) pushing for changes that my children are not ready for (though I can see that coming).
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
