Hopeless feelings

[flowmom]

mb28, it was your H's decision to move out. It's his job to figure out how to pay for a second residence, not yours. You shouldn't be figuring out a budget for him, the onus should be on him to demonstrate that taking a second residence is a reasonable option right now. He has the choice to move back into your family home, right? Ask yourself what's right for your children and keep bringing any conversations about decision-making, assets, etc. back to what's right for the children. That responsibility will never go away no matter what happens to your marriage.

I know this is a tricky issue. My H is spending $850/mo on an apartment that we totally can't afford. But my children are not going to lose their home because he "needs space". That may happen down the road but I'll do everything in my power to maintain a stable base for them.