Mixed Signals or is this Limbo Land

[MHL]

My W used to tell me when ever I talked, and I can talk a lot. She knew I was happy when I was talking, if I wan't talking to her she knew I was upset about something or something was wrong. She often assumed it was her that I had the problem with and the crazy cycle would begin. I just wonder and suspect that very thing I was doing, talking and not listening to her was actually smoothering her but at least she knew I was happy???

Not bashing myself here but with respect to my current sitch and being overly nice, do I go back to talking a lot, not really listening to her or do I try to do as I have done in the last 3-4 weeks and pay close attention to her, look her in eyes, smile, validate, meet one of her needs (as DW pointed out in his thread). I think that I am finding that the fine line is closer to the way I used to be until she becomes interested again. I am thinking that I will communicate that I am happy w/o her and will go on, but be nice while at it???? Not sure.

Today, we had discussed but never confirmed that my S9 was going to spend some time with her today after church. She would normally meet us in the parking lot after. I never spoke with her yesterday after 2pm and she never said anything to S9 about today, so after church we left, she was not in the parking lot. Halfway home, I get a call from her,

W "where are you"
Me "halfway home"
W "I thought S9 was going to spend time with me today"
Me "S9 did not want to today, wants to play with friends and I never heard from you to confirm" (I was expecting Anger from her)
W "I guess I should not have bought PS3 game"
Me "yeah S9 played all day yesterday" (I was surprised, no anger)
Wife speaks to S9 and he explains what he wants to do and hands phone back to me.
W "We are still good for Tues and Thurs this week?"
Me "yes"
W "Okay then...pause...."
ME ".......pause..... okay talk to you later, bye"
W "......Bye"

It didn't feel right, I did not feel I was friendly with her, so does that mean I did the "right DB thing"???

Another long post, see I do talk a lot and I am happier!!!

Alright, this may be a positive and I try to find them when and where I can. This is the second weekend in the last 4 weekends that my W came to our church. Me and kids go to first service and she has been going to second service with her IC, yes her IC goes to our church and I actually saw her IC today outside my son's Sunday School class. Does W coming back to our church mean anything or is she just getting comfortable with her sin. Who knows?? I am going to write it down and watch what happens next week, not going to tell the kids.