Wife wants best of both worlds

[MHL]

DW,
Insightful to say the least, I guess that is the crux of the matter, is totally letting go but it is exponentially harder with children. The WAW knows you will still act to protect your children mentally, physically and emotionally, for most mothers that is huge need and we are meeting it like champions. All the other needs she has can much more easily be met without the pressure of children, which in IMHO, children trigger the downward spiral of most of the marriages of the people on these boards. Not saying that kids are bad but they can take the focus off the spouse and God. God does have a priority list for families, yet we tend to totally flip it around. God says, put Him first, your spouse second, and then your children. All too often we put prioritize our lives in this order, Work, children, ourselves, spouse, God.
Once it gets to the point where we are at it is hard to get it back in order w/o a willing partner. Dark words from me, I know, just some days I am not sure if what I am doing is the right thing to get it back on track.