What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[SpyBunny]

I have to trust her. Without trust, I have no marriage.

Trust has to be earned. Has she done anything to earn your trust back after her recent behavior? It doesn't seem like it- she wants to you to trust her based solely on her word. Remember Ronald Reagan's view on it?- trust, but verify.

When I pressed her not to go a few weeks ago she said " You are shooting yourself in the foot. How do you know that I might get there and miss you"

Classic manipulation on her part. She's a master at it. And you're worried about manipulating her?

She knows what will happen if she divorces me... I will start going out with the $luts she is talking about. I don't think she wants that.

Nope, she doesn't want anybody else to have you. She wants you to herself, and to have her fun too. And she doesn't really know what will happen if you divorce- she has no clue other than what her fantasy is.

She needs to make the effort to change tho too.

Has she even started working on that or are you supposed to just believe her?

It sounds like you're setting yourself up for a big fall, Doc. Please be careful.

Bunny