Thanks for all the help and support. I know that I'm not out of the woods yet. She assured me that she was not meeting with anyone, and I have to trust her. Without trust, I have no marriage.
WAW's don't usually tell their LBH's the truth, they tell them whatever they need to tell them if it suits whatever purpose.
She had an affair, she needs to rebuild trust, consistent action rebuilds trust, I don't see consistent action on her part, in fact the only thing that turned things around were when you stood up for yourself - she may have shown you a reaction contrary to this but secretly somewhere inside of her, a small amount of respect was re-established.
You don't have to trust her, in fact, you need to make her work for that trust, giving it to her so easily attributes very little value to earning your trust, and if it's worth so little, why should anyone bother acquiring your trust. You need to see the logic in this.
You think her morals and ethics are above having an affair but didn't you start this thread because she had an affair? Which is it tri? It's not one or the other. Plus I thought you wanted to bust the divorce, you're being given advice on how to achieve that result.
If you guys get divorced, why would she care about the "sluts" she is talking about, you wouldn't be married anymore, it wouldn't be your business who she is with and it wouldn't be her business who you are with - where is the logic in worrying about what your ex-wife or ex-husband?
