What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[Sleepy]

Guys,

Thanks for all the help and support. I know that I'm not out of the woods yet. She assured me that she was not meeting with anyone, and I have to trust her. Without trust, I have no marriage.

I have shown her how things could be and I'm not afraid of divorce. I am the one living with her and I feel that love and trust is what she needs now. This is a test. She wants to see how disturbed I am from all of this. I'm not going to say a thing. When she gets home, I will just ask her how it went and stay cool.

When I pressed her not to go a few weeks ago she said " You are shooting yourself in the foot. How do you know that I might get there and miss you"

I think her morals and ethics are above a physical affair. If I'm wrong and she walks... at least I know that I took the high road. I want to be that kind of person. I want my kids to know that too.

This counter-intutive approach seems manipulative. She knows what will happen if she divorces me... I will start going out with the $luts she is talking about. I don't think she wants that.

I have been a absentee father, a poor husband and she just needs time to see that I have indeed changed. She needs to make the effort to change tho too.

I wont let her disrespect me. I am much more in control than I was. I feel her respect is growing.
I'll let you all know how things went when she returns.