D11 has been working on an ancestry project for school. It was well thought out, beautifully drawn, and generally stellar work, except...
H was hanging from a noose on his branch of the tree.
She is the class clown, and she said she thought it would be funny.
It sort of was, but not.
That is a bit concerning. I can see the immediate humor in it. But looking further into it where those feelings are coming from, I don't know.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I see your point, Kevin. If it was D8 or D12, I would be a little more concerned. D10 is always doing something crazy for laughs. I'm going to keep my eye on her, though.
I typed a huge update, and then poof...it was gone. Those of you who read this are in luck. This one will be much shorter.
Yesterday the kids had their first visit at Dad's apartment. D10 had a prior committment, so she didn't go. D12 didn't want to go since D10 didn't have to go, but I made them all go anyway.
H lives 35 miles away, so I agreed to drive the kids to his place and drop them off. My original plan was to avoid actually going in his apartment, because I thought I would feel uncomfortable. However, I needed to use the bathroomi, so I went inside.
As he showed me to the bathroom, I said his place was nice. I finished, said goodbye to the kids, and left.
As I was driving home, H called. He asked what time D10 would be finished. I said about 4. He asked if I would bring her back so he could spend a little time with her. He is about to leave for a week, so this would be all he got with her. I told him I didn't really want to drive out and back and then back again to pick the kids up. He said I could hang out at his house.
We arrive, and H is cooking dinner. He asked if I wanted some, but I said no. After they ate, the kids went outside to play with some kids they met. H went out on the balcony to check on them. He called me out there to watch the kids play. While I was out there, he showed me his washer and dryer and told me why he picked this apartment.
We went back in, and I noticed my key holder hanging on his wall. I laughed, and said...you took my key holder. He laughed, and said he needed it. I said...you have one key on it, why do you need a holder? We both laughed again.
I tried to shrink into the corner as much as possible, but H kept talking to me. I said...I am trying not to interrupt your parenting time, but you keep talking to me. He said...the kids are outside anyway, and you said we should be civil so I am.
He walks over and sits next to me and shows me the sketch for a new tattoo he is about to get. It was really nice, and I told him I liked it. He also showed me some pictures he had gotten at Ikea. He also showed me a few other household items he had gotten. At this point, I noticed a picture frame on the counter. It was mine, so I said I see you took my picture frame. I winked and said, didn't they have any at Ikea. He laughed again. The picture frame was empty at my house, and still empty at his house, so I have no idea why he took it.
The kids came inside, and S5 sits down next to me. H goes and gets a chair. Yep, mine. He said he took it from the attic. He had a sheepish grin on his face. It was cute.
A lot more stuff happened, but I'll spare you.
It was a good visit for them, and I enjoyed laughing with him again.
It was a good visit for them, and I enjoyed laughing with him again.
Glad to hear SG. Seems to me that he is trying to keep somethings that remind him of home. I don't think he was talking to you to be civil either. I think he wanted to talk to you and spend some time with you.
Interesting sitch you got going on there.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Ok, I might have missed something, but why did you have to drive them to his place? He should have just picked them up at your house. And when he picks them up, you should have shown him that you were on your way out to someplace.
You're enabling his behavior. You even mention that he took YOUR stuff. That's being an ass. You should have restricted all that. The thing is to not make his life a paradise as he steps all over yours.
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Ok, I might have missed something, but why did you have to drive them to his place? He should have just picked them up at your house. And when he picks them up, you should have shown him that you were on your way out to someplace.
You're enabling his behavior. You even mention that he took YOUR stuff. That's being an ass. You should have restricted all that. The thing is to not make his life a paradise as he steps all over yours.
I drove the kids to his house because he either rides a motorcycle or drives a small sports car. He currently has no way to transport the kids around. I wanted them to be able to spend the day at their Dad's house, so I dropped them off.
Yes, he took some of my stuff, but it was all stupid stuff. That's why we laughed about it. He didn't take anything that I would care to have back.
Truthfully, I may be enabling him, but I don't feel like he is stepping all over my life. He did what he needed to do, and I actually think it was a good thing. I'm starting to understand how we got in this crisis.
