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[gutwrenching]

Well did good today, maybe not great, will see what the experts have to say. Took a leap of faith today - faith in the advice of Sandi, Greek, Coach, Rocked, and Lost. Figured it was time for me to move forward and this was such a prime opportunity - won't get a ton of these because she doesn't call that much.

Here's the events:
4:05 W texts GW: Are you on the way to ski lessons
GW sees, ignores, and says to himself, what a loaded question, she knows darn well I am, she just wants to call now to have a quick phone conversation with girls and leave me out of it. GW reminds himself wait at least an hour to respond
One hour later, GW is enjoying watching ski lesson and decides he isn't going to reply yet

5:20 W calls GW on cell, GW sees it and does not answer. Waits 5 minutes to see if she leaves voice mail, she does not.

5:25 GW returns text to W: "At lessons now"

W immediately texts back: I know, forgot
GW scoffs at that, she knows what time it is
W texts again: I am really tired

GW is torn, sleep has been such an issue that he has hard time resisting comment. After deleting a couple of texts, he simply sends (after waiting a few minutes)
"sleep = important"

W sends flurry of texts back:
"I know, what about the girls"
"It will be 2 more hours" (GW scoffs again, thought she forgot what time it was)
"I could call and leave a message for them"
"At the house and call tomorrow"

Since this is about the girls, GW decides he should text back. Waits 5 minutes, sends 2 texts:
"I am going inside in a moment, cold. Lesson has 25 more minutes"
"If you just want to leave message, leave it on cell phone, not planning on going back to house anytime soon"

W texts back 3 more almost instantly:
"OK what about my idea to call so I can go to bed"
"OK"
"where are you going"

GW says got think like the WAS, how would W respond to me if I had sent those 3 (and yes I've done stuff like that plenty recently)...decides WAS would only vaguely answer and ignore the where are you going.

GW texts back: "Do what you want on the call"

W texts back:
"ok"

Then W tries to call GW again...again GW sees it and doesn't answer

W then texts a couple of minutes later: "Cell won't answer"

GW texts back: "Was busy talking to the instructor, girls still in lesson"

W texts back: "Leaving message at the house"

GW texts back: "Is my voicemail not working" (wondering since I didn't test it after setting it up today)

W texts back: Don't know left one at the house I want to go to sleep

GW waits another 10 minutes and texts: "goodnight"
W texts back: "night"


It did feel good to not be on the receiving end of the yo-yo. I felt good to have a little control. Am still nervous because it is counter-intuitive and I tried hard to walk the line when it comes to letting the girls talk to their mother which they really want to do. In fact, I did send a final text about 45 minutes later stating if she was awake, we were all back in the car from ski lessons and she could call the girls. She never replied.

Question for the experts: Girls had an incredible ski lesson, made huge progress, do I send W an e-mail and tell her this or wait for her to call and see if she even wants to talk in the morning. Also, about the dog - I'm thinking at some point I should tell her, not just let her come to find him limping all over the house.

Please let me know what you think and whatever feedback on trying hard today to do things correctly.