Oh, I totally feel for you with S getting the stomach flu. I went thru that with my S on New's Years day and it was not pretty. He threw up everywhere (but luckily one place he did not throw up on was my bed). It was my first experience with S getting the stomach flu and it broke my heart to see him so miserable. Be careful for yourself too. If it is a similar bug to one one going around here, it is extremely contagious! It ended up going around to my whole family and extended family!
Well, I think you'll need to evaluate the ackwardness of the situation, but it seems like since you do have a good relationship with your in-laws and you want to continue to foster that for S's sake as his grandparents, that you shouldn't let H stupidness affect that. Besides, they invited you and if he's too sheepish to tell them the truth of what's going on, then that's his issue, not yours or S's. Maybe hint to your inlaws to let H know you're coming (even if you do or do not tell them you aren't talking) and make him make the decision. I know in some of our lower points, I continued to go to family events b/c his family loves me and wanted to see me and definitely wanted to see S (so therefore, me acting as S's sole guardian right now, automatically means I'm there too). But it really comes down to how you feel about it and how those relationships are. If it would feel too ackward for you, then I would say don't go then, b/c unless you are a great actress, the ackwardness will show. I know for me though it's been more than just about H and I and resisiting contact or what not, it's about keeping strong family relations for S's sake, so that no matter what happens to H and I, S will always have a strong family bond and a large and loving family! (actually, just came back from an anniversary dinner for H's sister with just his sister and family, his parents, and his aunt and cousin. Very glad for those bonds! ;-) )
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
