Update, after last post call sis in law and tell her that I am 99% sure that w and x from work are at least in ea. My friend calls 2 minutes later and asks who w is with at target. I ask for description and ta dah just as I expect. Fill in sis in law of confirmation. She immediately calls mil who calls W and really digs into her. She comes home, confesses to EA. She thinks we have 0 chance of getting back so doesn't see problem
me 31 her 31 ilybinilwy 10-2-09 i moved out 12-13-09 boy 7 girl 3 boy 16 months
Need some advice on how to proceed next. Have long talk during day about EA. X from work is also going through D and they just began talking and tm because of their similar situation. She sees him as someone she could potentially date once D is final and she doesn't know exactly how he feels. I told her that bringing another man into our M is unacceptable. Already told her before that don't plan on being any type of friend once she files and that this EA is completely disrespectful to me and our children. She has no plans on ending it because she obviously cannot discuss everything with me.
me 31 her 31 ilybinilwy 10-2-09 i moved out 12-13-09 boy 7 girl 3 boy 16 months
Text me 1/2 hr after she leaves saying she is moving forward with divorce but will not involve him anymore. She is focused on the kids and she does respect me. and she apologizes. I guess it sounds nice, but I believe nothing.
me 31 her 31 ilybinilwy 10-2-09 i moved out 12-13-09 boy 7 girl 3 boy 16 months
been thinking about my sitch some more and I know for certain my biggest problem is that she thinks I am right here still waiting for her. I am detached and am fine with D.
me 31 her 31 ilybinilwy 10-2-09 i moved out 12-13-09 boy 7 girl 3 boy 16 months
I wonder if I should just tell W that my entire family and hers needs to know our situation before we start connecting with other people. I realize that our D may be a long process and I certainly don't plan on just sitting around. I really think I need to date and just break free. any thoughts. I think I just get confused because I am receiving different ideas and I just don't know whats right. Mort fertel's solution is love love love. I am at a crossroads now because I feel like I could either just give her love and see if that works. Or just break off and move on. I am free from her in many ways, I really feel in our conversations and interactions that she thinks she could just say lets get back together and I would drop what I was doing to do it. I need to be pursued. She still thinks I am pushing.
me 31 her 31 ilybinilwy 10-2-09 i moved out 12-13-09 boy 7 girl 3 boy 16 months
puppy, regarding my playground "date". I had received info that the best way to tell if W wants you back would be to see if she got upset when you spent time with a different woman. Initially I took her reaction to be a very good sign, but I think the "date" was definately not the right timing.
me 31 her 31 ilybinilwy 10-2-09 i moved out 12-13-09 boy 7 girl 3 boy 16 months
