Young Couple, WAW, Kids, Individual Problems

[MarkG]

I wrote this email trying to set some boundaries & would like to send it tonight. I'd like some advice before it goes out because words are touchy with her. She gets angry if I use large words because she thinks I'm talking down on her, so hopefully I don't sound too sarcastic or anything like that. I also don't want to sound too needy. Hopefully the 1st couple sentences sound more like an observation than a guilt trip. By "later" I mean the talk we were supposed to have in November about working on the R. I kept it as short as I think I possibly could, here it is:

I have waited 2 months for “later” and it doesn't seem to be that important to you. It's not worth what I've been going through. I am done being a convenience for you and I'm done with the double-standards. You want me to be a friend to you but I don't know when I'm allowed to call. Every time he's around when you're talking to me you have to be a complete bitch to me, idk if that's to impress him or what but I don't want any part in that. The other day you told me we're still married, and that's true, but it's losing its meaning fast. Either you want to be together or not, and while I can't get a straight answer from you I've seen enough to know what it is. If our being married has any meaning to you at all more than renting videos on the account in my name you need to tell me that, otherwise you need to get your own video account. If we are not together we can't share things like that anymore. By what I figure I owe you $120 on the phone bill so I'll pay your 1/2 of the car insurance which is $150, that's close enough to even for me if it is for you. It will be due again in July and then it's your responsibility. Even though I'm done waiting it's still not too late to work on our marriage, I'm just done committing to it until you give me a reason to. I have figured out at least 1 point where it will be too late to work out our marriage. If something happens in court and you lose custody of the kids I will not be your way back to them. After that there would be no way you could convince me you wanted a relationship at all.