New year, new thread, new R?

[forward]

SH,
You also have to be prepared that you might not meet someone. I think you need to say enough when you are confident you are OK on your own. I would let him file, but if you are truly prepared for it, yes, bring up the terms.

You could look at it as doing nothing as he continues to spin, but you sound as if you have had enough and want to move on. 3.5 years is a long time (would soon be 3 for me, but we did divorce.