Where in the world did that come from !!!

[Greek]

I'm hearing both of you Greek & RW, but which one is it to be, or both?

They are both basically the same in spirit. The message to W is: "Stop your A or I will ______________." My suggestion was to make her completely give up using the family home to store her things. Make her put on her Big Girl Panties and find another place to store her stuff but you just don't have room for it - with your new life and all! Think of it - a friend comes to you and says, "I'm having an A - can I keep my things in your house while I get my self settled in a new situation?" You would tell your friend to sod off. Well, that's really what she is doing. You are keeping her things safe and stored while she is having an A.

Or - you can do as RW suggested and tell her to end the A or you will file legally for D.

Either way - you call the shots and set the boundary.
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[blownaway65]

OK have asked D17 to text me when they are 10 minutes away so I can be ready to tell her my boundary & what I want from our R when they get here. Just hope she doesn't smell of sex!!

thank you so much ladies.

[Greek]

Practice in your mind what you will say and stick to that script. Don't let her throw you off of your boundary.

As Coach says...You can handle it.
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[blownaway65]

I hope so

[blownaway65]

It's done.

Told her I knew about A then pretty much what RW said and also that if she didn't end A she had till Tuesday night to get all her stuff out or it was going to Salvation Army.

No more, no less than that.

You know I've cried heaps (almost daily) ever since W left us, but I haven't since I found out about A. Even seeing the texts they were sending & her car outside OM's house hasn't made me sadly emotional - it's been gut wrenchingly painful but I know I'm getting stronger with each day that goes by.

Thanks for everyone's support.

[Greek]

Good job taking care of yourself and your kids. You are protecting your family against unsavory behaviors. That's what a man does.

What was her reaction to your firm stand?

Cheers ~
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[blownaway65]

Always hard to tell with her, doesn't show much emotion normally.

I told her what I had to, closed her car door and walked off inside.

She sat for a few seconds then drove off, and I didn't even look back.

[rockedworld]

Good job! I know how gut wrenchingly horrible it is to do that. I also was strangely calm and unemotional, until the next day and then it hit. But I think it is because it is almost a strange sort of relief to finally know the truth and finally confront that horrible truth. Then, you have done what you need to do for you and your family, and the ball is in the WAS's court.

Hang in there! You are going to be ok.

[blownaway65]

I know I will be, no matter which way it goes and I'll be in a better place for my next R, with W or someone else.

[blownaway65]

Well that had an effect quickly. Within an hour W & BIL were round with a borrowed Ute & Trailer. She is taking bugger all though.

I will try to get her to sign something to say Goods and Chattels are all done.