Moving Foward

[Kemper]

Hey C-Bart,

The boys are moving out of the house because based on what my L is saying a judge would be hard pressed not to allow them to move out since my W has been their primary care taker since they were born. She is a SAHM. The other option would be to put them in daycare full time during the day which is cost prohibative and honestly not in their best interest. Since they are not in school I don't have any means to have them stay from a legal perspective.

As far as the A goes I just wanted her to know from my mouth that I am aware of it. I know that her L has told her through my L about it but I wanted it to come from me. Was I trying to shame her, no.

I was not at all hurt by her comments. Those were her feelings that she needs to deal with. I was only concerned about her saying what she did in front of our son which I said to her.

I agree that it isn't my job to fix her emotional state. I guess since we have really talked in so long it was habitual to ask what was the matter. Something I need to keep in mind moving forward.

I know she is wrong, and I would guess that she knows she is wrong. To be honest I wasn't trying to convince her of that. I am still moving full speed ahead with the separation because it is the best thing at this point to see if she will come to her senses.

If she doesn't I will move on, if she does then there is a long road ahead.

After reading your response I can see where the comment about the A and asking about her feelings might have been a backslide. I do not regret the conversation as I was not angry, yelling or anything of the sort. I was calm and quiet in my interaction which is a 180 for me and for us for that matter.

Thanks for taking the time to post. I will continue to be as dark as possible with my W still in the house.