My h and I have already gotten all the haggling out of the way...he pretty much signed over everything without fighting too much. I did give him the right to claim one of the children as a tax exemption but I got the equity in our home, the house.
I'm going to fight his decision to give me the d...just on the grounds (well also that I don't want to end my M) that he says he's giving me what i want!!! The d is NOT what I want...but he digs it in by saying the d was filed by me. I think he's just copping out by saying he's giving me what I want so as to feel better (?). he says he still has feeling for me but is sorry my feelings are hurt, but this is what I pushed for and this d is what I'm going to get. He also said that if I had waited 3 months after moving out and not filing that he would have come home. I counter with well if that is the case why did you have condoms in your gym bag and offer no explanation? By the time he got around to explaining, I'd filed for divorce. If he didn't want the d, he shouldn't have signed the papers...I asked him not to but to go to counseling instead. He signed them.
the more I think about it a dismissal would prove that I don't want the d...since he's so fired up to have it then he can go file. That's how I see it now!
