Did I miss something? Why are the boys moving out of their home?

Why did you feel it necessary to shame her about the A? Was it because you were hurt by her comments? IMHO you should not have asked her what was wrong. Not your job to fix her emotional state. Only thing you accomplished was shifting her focus away from her issue back to you as the problem. You may have been trying to convince her she was wrong which is a kind of pursuit.

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Me-41
W-39
M-15 yrs T-17 yrs
D-12
S-9
S-8
B 5/08
S 1/09