Moving Foward

[Kemper]

Today has been interesting. I got up early with the boys and spent time with them. During the morning I also created a list of big ticket items that my W and I had to figure out how to split due to the upcoming separation. W came out of her room around 11:40 while the boys were eating lunch.

I left a few minutes later to go have lunch with a friend. We were out for a over 3 hours and had a good time. On my way home I received an email but didn't check my phone until I got home. When I got home I read the email and it was from W. She was asking for a bunch of documentation for her L. I responded to her letting her know that my L had it.

I walked in the door and noticed that she had marked a bunch of stuff down on the list I created this morning. For the most part we were in agreement with the exception of one item.

After that I walked upstairs and she was in our oldest son's room putting clothes away. I let her know that my L had the information she was requesting. She asked me if I could tell my L to send it over to her L. I told her to let her L know my L had it and her L could ask for it if she needed it.

I also told her that the list she marked up pretty much matched what I was thinking with the exception of the one item because I wanted it as well. I asked about our sons furniture and she said she didn't know. I told her that we needed to work it out since it would be cheaper for us to work on it then to leave it up to the lawyers. She agreed but was aggravated.

I asked her when we were going to talk with the boys about what is going to happen. She said that since she was the one that had to tell them that she would tell them right before they moved out. I told her that I wanted to be there which she has been known all along but I guess it took her off guard for some reason. Her aggravation was increasing and I asked what was the matter.

She said that she was tired of this. I asked what she was tired of and she said she was sick of seeing me and didn't want to be in the house with me. She was also pissed off because of the letter that was drafted up between the lawyers for her to go out of town last week. I stopped her and said that while I don't have an issue with her feelings I do have an issue with her saying what she was saying in front of our oldest son.

She started walking downstairs and as she was walking away I said that at least I wasn't the one that went outside the marriage. (note this is the first time that I have said anything about her A to her) She started to say that she didn't and I just said stop, we both know you are lying and it is disrespectful and extremely unattractive. She made some statement about me saying stuff that wasn't true and I started walking away. She made another comment about me being disrespectful and she proceeded to go to her room.

A little while later my oldest son and I were downstairs and she came down dressed (not in PJs) with an overnight bag. I asked if she was staying out and she said maybe. I just asked if she would be back in time for me to goto church and she said yes.

My oldest son and I went upstairs and then she came up to say goodbye to him. The youngest was still sleeping.

So the good thing is I am home with the boys and get to spend a bunch of time with them. I honestly can't wait for her to move out but I am going to miss my boys when that happens and I feel sorry for what they are about to go through.