Hope is the thing with feathers....

[Bridgestone]

Hey Antlers,
I have dove deeply and am still in the process of swimming far. I have new experiences, friends, self-respect that I never thought I would have.
I'm looking forward to more. Thanks for sharing that quote.. I like it!

2 things new here. I'm going to journal my thoughts of each... pros & cons. Please feel free to provide input.

1-A possibility of a good job back in the town I just left, back in the arena of work I was in about 10 years ago.

Cons:
a) It's back in the arena of work I left 10 years ago. I left it for a reason.. I needed to move along, however, I know I would not be staying in it once D15 gradaute in 3.5 years.

B) It would put me in close proximity with StBx,

C) I lose the cultural diversity, events, large city benefits I have come to love in the past 6 months. I would miss this new town tremendously.

D)I would take a paycut of about 1/3.

Pros
A) I would be back in almost daily contact with D15 & have her at least if not more than 50% of the time.

B) I would be back in close contact with my family

C)... struggling with any more than that.


2) STbX & I are probably 30 minutes of talking, and one meeting each with our lawyers & joint meeting with the mediator away from finalizing our Divorce settlement.

Cons:
A) This is just sad.. there are no winners in this process.

B) See above

Pros:
A) I've seen more growth & graciousness from my StBX in the past 3 months since this started than I think I saw from him in the past 36. Which sends me back to the Cons.

B) BobbiJo was right.. my laywer only needs to find a judge to sign the decree.. no court date or appearance necessary. Since we have an option to waive the 90 waiting period... I suppose I could be divorced by end of February.

C) I Have a good settlement agreement on the horizon... much more than I could get in court.

Thanks for reading..
Peace
Bridge