I had the boys through Weds evening when she came to pick them up. My 7 year old and I spent some more one on one time together Tues after school (his brother only has day care on Tues and Thurs - the only want to hold his spot) so it's one of the few days we have one on one time together. We spent it finishing organizing the comics he had just gotten. He really enjoyed it.
It was really cold this week so we spent most of the week inside. I could tell that my boys are getting a little "cabin fever", particularly my 3 year old since he only goes to daycare twice a week so I know he misses that extra interaction with kids.
His school was giving out portable CD players since they had won an award (there were a ton of them in boxes for parents to just grab). We picked one up on Tues when I picked him up. On Weds, when she came to pick them up, my 3 year old wanted to take it with him to her apt. I didn't have any problem with it, but my 7 year old freaked out when saying she won't let him bring it back and we'll lose it. I told him that it will be fine as it's his brothers so he can do what he wants with it. He was still freaking out so I told him that I would talk to her to make sure he brings it back if he wants to.
The crazy part was on Thurs, I asked her to grab an extra one so they wouldn't fight over it (she was picking him up from daycare). She said she didn't know what I was talking about as she didn't see any there. I just figured they got all snatched up so I thought no biggie.
When I saw my 7 year old on Fri, he said that mommy gave them two of the cd players to keep in her apt. I was like WTF?!!? (I didn't say that). I just asked was he sure they were the same. He said yes. I asked if he saw there were anymore at the day care. He said yes, there were still a couple of boxes full of them on Thurs. I just said "Oh" but in my mind I couldn't believe how petty she was that she couldn't/wouldn't grab an extra one for the boys and then lied about it.
What then also urked me was that she had to pick up my 7 year old on Thurs as I had an interview. He told me she was late so he was waiting but when she got there, she told him that they would have some one on one time together before picking up his brother. He said he wanted to play wii with her but when he started playing, she didn't play with him so he played by himself. He said he was a little sad, but was used to it. Very pathetic.....
Thurs nite I wound up having dinner with my buddy and his family. It was nice as I hadn't seen them in a couple of months.
Fri was warm (mid 40's) so we wound up playing tennis for a while before she came to pick them up. My 3 year old was freaking out as he wanted to stay home with me. She said no but he was crying so badly that my 7 year old even yelled at her about letting him just stay with me because that's what he wants. I was fine with it, but I could see she wasn't going to go for it so I just buckled them both in the car and gave them hugs and kisses.
About 45 minutes later, she sent me a text saying he had fallen asleep in the car and stopped crying and was ok. I just responded O - please tell the boys I love them and will talk with them tonite. I went out to meet my buddies for a guys nite. I talked with the boys and they knew I was out as it was really noisy (I know she knew as well since she has them on a speaker phone when talking with me).
She did say that I could pick up the boys on Sun at 12:30 so we could watch football together. I asked if she wanted to have lunch together. She said no cause she might have a game. I just said O and dropped it. I don't know why I even try to be nice. I thought she had wanted to do something for lunch as she gave me a gift certificate ($10) that we had gotten for a lunch spot last year before she moved out on Weds when she picked up the boys. It was about to expire (next month).
It also reminded me of how when we were together, she would never come out to do the sports stuff with the boys (i.e. play basketball, catch, go to the park, bike ride, etc) but now she goes to play flag football on Sundays. I shouldn't let it bother me, but that was one of the things she had complained about how I was always doing things with the boys but we would never do things together. I would always ask her to come out with us, but she would never come out.
It's a beautiful day out today. I just hope she takes them out to play as there hasn't been many days like this. I'm going to meet a buddy to watch football tonite. I'm going to try to take it slow as I didn't get home and to bed last nite till 3:00AM from the guys nite so I'm struggling today (it was a fun nite though).
And I will see my boys tomorrow! A day early! Yeah!
So life continues.... FIDO!
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
