Thanks Greek. You have given me a lot of your time today, it means a lot. That last post final kicked it in to me. Is OM still in pic, I am 90% sure but cannot be certain, but yes I think so. She claims she went cold turkey but I think they just went deeper undercover. The only thing I know with certainty is they talked about a week ago on a pay as you go phone.
Yeah, he's in the pic. There's your reality.
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Be there when she is ready and let her miss me...gosh I wish she would miss me. That is what I want.
Wishing won't do it. You have to take certain measures and you are correct - those measure are counter-intuitive. But they work. Read around on this forum the numbers of times a spouse goes dim on the contact and suddenly the WA is ape$hit trying to get in touch with them. It's true!
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After I get the dog figure out, think I will make plans so we will not be here today. After ski lessons, it sounds like a good night to go out to dinner with the girls. After that, something else. Then she has to call the cell and I don't have to answer. Heck, I don't even need to carry it on me, I can leave it in the car if I don't want to be distracted. If she gets desperate enough, she'll call my work cell phone which she knows I have to carry on me at all times.
Take those little ladies to a movie. You can bring your phone w/you if you want but of course, being the polite citizen you are, you will silence your phone in the movie theatre. And then y'all will head home - late - and you'll turn in for the night with hardly a thought of that phone.
IF IF IF you get tempted to call or text her, take the phone apart and put the pieces all about the house. That way you'll have to go to a lot of trouble and have time to think about whether or not making that call is going to achieve your goal - for her to miss you.
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Please keep feeding me Greek - I suddenly feel like I'm about at a turning point - things really starting to sink in - thank you
You are welcome. Coach and I have been there. Just paying it back Greek
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