Quote: Yes, some quality time is better than no time at all...that's what my h says. He says at least I see them one day ever 2 weeks and that's better than my dad did for me! He saw his dad last month for the first time in 35 years! Yeah, big difference there!
My H's dad never did anything with him, my H played sports all through school and his dad hardly ever came to watch him, my H is an outdoorsman and he learned it all on his own and H's dad also worked out of town during the week. So my H never had a good role model for a father, like I did. So I have to remember that when my expectations don't match what he is doing. They are MY expectations and H should not have to meet my expectations if he can't or if he doesn't want to..he is a great father though!
Quote: What frustrates me really is that my standard is not being met!
Why should H have to meet your standards? Do you meet his standards? What are standards? If we let go of standards/expectations than maybe we can look at the person and say "hmmm he's not like me and that's okay" remember my post about "we don't get to call all the shots in our marriage" H is doing the best he CAN, for now, and that's all we can expect of him and ourselves.
Quote: He's not me and I can't expect him to act like me.
Good Cindy, I think you are getting it!
Cathy
P.S. He does go to your son's soccer games, that's a positive in my book.
