When it was confirmed for me, I waited until I was calm and then approached my H. I calmly said, "I know about the PA. I want you to know that I love you and I will continue to choose this M IF you end this R, have NC and total transparency. If you are willing to do that, I will walk with you through forgiveness and healing and helping you sort out whatever happened that got you here. If you are not willing to do that, I will not be your friend. I will have some difficult decisions to make, including filing for D." I then left
I like that! Says all that needs to be said, and keeps it simply!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
