Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

Greek -

No, GW...don't explain that the phone was on silent. Don't explain a thing. Don't fill in the blanks. Let her wonder why every time she calls the phone goes to VM. 'I wonder why he can't take my call? Hmmm...is he busy? Doing what? Or is someone there and he can't talk to me?'

Knowing my wife and since she knows me...me not answering the phone is going to be shell shock...way out of norm for either of us. So, she will ask...she will ask why I didn't answer or where we were at (she knows I'll have the kids with me)...so how do I answer that, how do I imply I was just too busy? And if she calls at the house and we are here, I have to answer, the kids will know its her.
And also, this is going to be rare thing--her calling--rare phone calls when we are both in town. TMs and calls to work where someone else usually answers the phone.

Although I certainly understand that she is the only one on the planet you want to share with now - increasingly b/c she is unavailable to you. Something for you to keep in mind - hint, hint!

Make sure I get the hint right - the goal is to make me as unavailable so hopefully she will then want to talk to me as bad as I want to talk to her. Man this is so counter-intuitive. Watching dance class this morning I did wonder if I was making a mistake, wonder if she is testing me again to see if I will initiate contact since that is what drove her over the edge in the past. Worried about that. I did not act on it, but I worried about it, still worry about it.