Thnx for the encouragement. My impression, based on what my friend told me, is that she was visibly upset when she broke the news, and that she only did it because she felt people were suspecting. The fact that she did tell does show that she's quite serious about the R with OM. My friend also gave me the impression that OM might not have been on board with this revelation. This situation could develop in many ways, so it really brings more questions than answers. This news did knock the wind out of me, but I stepped outside to cool off, then talked it over with my buddy, and I feel back on track.
In the meantime, I'm being as upbeat as possible, especially around her and S. I finally feel comfortable alone, and ready to make positive action for myself. Therapy continues.
