NC - W vanished ...

[newmama]

Now at least I can reign them in and recognise them for what they are - a passing emotion that needs to be controlled.

Yes!!! Not acting on emotion and impulses is the hardest thing for us all and you have control! In fact, people who have problems with drugs and alcohol abuse them because they can't handle the emotions and reign them in. So it is a very healthy and difficult thing to be able for us to experience the emotions and not act on them let alone not try to numb them.

Now about contacting your MIL. As someone who has stayed in touch with WH's family, I advise sending the picture for sure. (If MIL wants to send a copy to W, great. But it is for MIL!)

Okay, about letting her know you are still committed to your vows...this is how I said it to my MIL but it is just an example and you may not want to put it this way. I sent her an email with a pic of S and added "Hope you are well. Regardless of what happens to WH and I, you will still be a part of S's life. I do want you know that I am still committed to our marriage and I am hoping to reconcile one day. Take care,"

In my case, I have been an active part of WH's family throughout our marriage. I can't recall if you were as involved with MIL or not.

I don't think you need to say you are not involved with D's mum if you send a message to her to let you know you are still committed to the marriage, KWIM? If she was wondering, she could ask you.