It's hard because you are not detached enough. It's the coaster ride from hell. We've all experienced it. You think that you are on solid ground and bam! They are at it again. He wants to discuss child support issues again, if you have a lawyer, you may want to direct your h to him/her. How many times do you need to discuss child support issues? Could it be that he wants to beat you down until you agree w/everything that he wants? A lot of them will do this.
You have control over your emotional state, do not allow him to dish out misery to ruin your day. He's a miserable, selfish little boy right now and he doesn't want "mommy" to have any fun. If he's feeling miserable, why can't "mommy" feel miserable too? After all, in his eyes "mommy" is the reason he is so unhappy. Not, true.....just remember, you have nothing to fear, but fear itself.
"snodderly"
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
yes it could be that he wants to beat me at his game...if i agree to d and support...or give up in my eyes...it would justify what he is doing is ok...in his eyes!
i wont do that...gonna keep away and nc except for the girls. getting ready now to go... talk more later.
op...its not the talking that gets me upset it is the mood swings that go from one extreme to the other...
if he has a good day we all do...if not all hell breaks loose.
i dont think he knows what he wants. i just want to keep away and let him do what he has to do...i believe he uses the d word to get me to back off...ok. i hear that loud and clear...just stupid that all he really needs to do is talk to me...
thanks for listening! need to vent a little!
Last edited by lost1234; 01/16/1006:45 PM.
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
op, meant talk to you all more later not h...plans changed. we will be doing build a bear tomorrow...bil not feeling well.
dont know when i will talk to or see him again...i dont work on weekends so if we arent doing anything big with the girls...they usually speak to him on the phone...
like i said no clue as to why he was still here this morning. now it seems like stay away mode...whatever.
see when i keep to myself and my own things is ticks him off...
what choice do i have? i need to care for me and our children...easier to do when not getting caught up in a silly argument.
how do the rest of you take the mood swings btw? how do you shrug them off? im doing MUCH better...still hard sometimes though!
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
It sounds like you had fun yesterday. Dinner sounds yummy and if the h shows up, so be it....take the time to do something other than sitting in the same room w/him. I'm sure you can find something to do.
Enjoy your day!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
