When H came home it was so clear that spending time with S18 made such a difference for him. H was able to really help S18 with some great fatherly advice and just listening. Apparently, S18 was so grateful, tearfully hugged his dad (which both tears and hugs are hard to come by from him these days) and thanked him that he can talk to both of us about these things. I could see how it turned some sort of switch back on for my H, because in his fog state, he was so disengaged from the kids too. I affirmed him in his role as a father and thanked him for being there for S18 and how important that was. I can see that is helping some of the healing for H.
We are both in a better emotional space today, so hopefully this will be a good weekend with some good family time.
