Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Sandi,

That makes two of us being confused why my W stopped pushing for meeting with her father. When we spoke at the gym she said something about feeling like we had to meet at counseling for closure so I could move forward with bills, dividing this up, etc. So I'm guessing she feels I am resisting that meeting so she wants the couneling session maybe so I "get it" so we can move forward with meeting she wants. Other than this reason I'm not sure why she has stopped pushing for the meeting.

I agree that she is not happy about meeting with new MC. I know my W suspects I did it to save M. She does now me well as I do about her. No doubt in my mind that she has rehearsed her closure speech for C. What I like about new pro M counselor is that she said she takes charge of tje first session. She asks the questions. She doesn't give an opportunity for "closure" speech.

Will begin NC. I need it right now just as much for me and for W. This has been extremely tiring. Plans for this weekend are to exercise, meeting with priest, party tonight to watch football, church on Sunday, walk dogs, etc.

I'm not sure I trust myself enough right now on how to respond to W's emails so I will seek your advice first. A part of me wants to hear what she has to say at C but the other part of me does not want to go at this time for her closure. My DB coach also recommends not going with W to counseling at this time. When the time comes for us to go to C I will make sure we go to new pro M counselor. Thanks again Sandi.