You are still being her puppet! When are you going to cut those stings she controls? Man, she is using you, don't you get that???

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I'm having a hard time thinking that if it actually did come to that why not just take her up on it....


It's worse than being a "stud". At least there's money involved when hiring out.

You are D from this woman. If it would be that easy to talk yourself into going to bed with her (if invited), then what's the deal with not sleeping with the OW? You didn't want to get serious about OW.....but you are trying to make this sound as if "Hey, it's no big deal, It's just sex between an old D couple."

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Is it possible for us to do that with no feelings or will it just open up a whole can of worms....I sit here and say that I could do it and that it won't bother me, but how will I feel about her afterwards....


She obviously has no problem doing it (according to her past record) without any feelings be affected......but you OTOH will definitly have feelings to get in the way.

Tell me something. If you are suppose to be trying to stay dark.....how did you know all this stuff about her plans and wishes for the weekend?

Why aren't you the one out there having a great time instead of sitting at home hoping she'll call in for "room service".

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!