I'm just wondering what a good DB response to that from my sitch could be... Any suggestions?
Yes. Don't let it get into this:
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I hugged W and she apologized to me for saying some of hurtful things and didn't like the way it escalated either. I told W that Im just having difficulty in regards to telling the kids and whats best,,, I then made a comment that it felt nice to hug W again and that thru all of this I missed the closeness...
Your initial apology was excellent -- I'm glad you did that. But to reapproach her a 2nd, and a 3rd time, and then do the "needy/grabby/melty-man" thing is CLASSIC "PURSUING," and you know that makes a walkaway feel smothered and pressured!
btw, a good response is always "Yes, I have heard you when you say we are getting divorce," or simply "Yes, I have heard you."
