I am in the same situation as you are, only I am H. I left home, we already separated our equity. I have only once asked her: do you think all this is worth it? She said yes, so I moved ahead with the D.
We're waiting for the judge for the legal separation. I don't know what I can do either, but I decided to start my new life, and hopefully she changes her mind, but I'm afraid not. I miss my kids terribly and I am very frustrated. I read on the boards that you should take care of yourself, so that's what I do.
If you need to, write here. The worst part is when there are doubts, and fights over the division of goods etc. After that, maybe things can cool down, and you'll be able to get a grip on yourself. Don't pursue H! Try to fix yourself first.
