Moving back in

[DDogs]

I spoke with W very briefly on the phone yesterday and in the course of the conversation, I told W that I want to apologize for my part in letting the last MC session escalate in anger. I told her that's not who I am and that's not who I intend to be. She thanked me and said she was sorry as well...

This morning before taking S to a school function, I approached W and said I was sorry again for my part in the escalation and that in the past we had gotten better in resolution our arguments. Instead of hard feelings for days I tried to address them in a reasonable amount of time... Since we haven't been having much of any interaction, the opportunity to address the fight was not there.

(My recent history of marital fights was to fight, have time to digest and then approach with a calmer disposition. I almost always feel particularly bad after a fight, this was no exception and I wanted to acknowledge my part in it.)

I hugged W and she apologized to me for saying some of hurtful things and didn't like the way it escalated either. I told W that Im just having difficulty in regards to telling the kids and whats best,,, I then made a comment that it felt nice to hug W again and that thru all of this I missed the closeness...W replied that she missed the friendship but felt very uncomfortable with physical contact. I asked w what she meant by that and her answer was "Well, we are getting divorced."

Something I just realized at that moment was the W seemed to always insert the, "well, we are getting divorced" statement, very business-like in the few conversations we did have.

Is this be W way of justifying he actions? Convincing/reminding herself? I sometimes feels that it's to tell me "regardless of what goes on, we are getting divorced".

That is just hard for me to hear... it feels to me like she's still driving the D train, and nothing will derail that...

I'm just wondering what a good DB response to that from my sitch could be... Any suggestions?