Your wife is spiraling out of control. It's not your fault, but she will blame the world for everything including the sky being blue. Don't listen to her!
Please take care of yourself. Continue doing what you've been doing. Come here whenever you can.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Your wife is spiraling out of control. It's not your fault, but she will blame the world for everything including the sky being blue. Don't listen to her
I know.
Thanks for this board. Last night was a rough one. I kept giving people advice but I think I was just giving it to myself instead!
I just pray that she doesn't do anything really dumb!
Unfortunately, in her current state of mind, she may very well do something stupid. I just hope that she takes the weekend to chill.
I hope that you have something you can do this weekend that will give you a much needed break from the madness.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I am doing better. Crisis for me is over, for now. W and I continue NC. I came home from work and then went to the movies. Saw "men who stare at goats". Funny the premise of the movie is a LBS who goes to IRAQ as an Army correspondent.
According to D23, W went to L because she is suing her school(employer) for suspending her. According to D23 the school is on a witch hunt. Of course that is coming from W who can't probably see that her performance at work has probably led to all of this. So I was more upset about this than W who just looks horrible but is still blaming the world for her crisis.
Tomorrow am going to visit my dad with D23, do some cooking and watch jet game. Oh, and relax.
Glad to read that the crisis is over. I do hope that your father is feeling a bit better. I'm keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers.
Definitely find some time for you today, even if it's just watching the game. Relax!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
JETS WIN!! I met my objectives, cooked dinner(tacos) for W and D23, saw my dad, watched football and relaxed. Have to get up at 4am to go to JFK airport to pick up S22 who is coming back from Isreal.
Oh also cooked pot roast for another night, mmmmmm good!
My W called the IC/MC yesterday to ask for another session of MC, to list her demands(?). I refused to set up another session. IC said that I would be hearing from her L.
I came home ate dinner and went upstairs since she was watching TV. She came upsatirs a few times, then left and went back down to sleep on couch.
I just went downstairs and found this letter written to me.
"OP, I tried to talk with you and IC/MC because I realize that I had not been really clear. This sich is not about my job or menopause. I realize that in choosing the direction for our life I participated by letting you for the last 2 years and before to keep living in the same way. This was because of my belief of how a R should be but it created more resentment and anger in me rather than improving the sich. I need to know that I can count on you to step up and become a contributing member in this R. This is a deal breaker for me.
I can only assume that as you are not willing to discuss this that there is no way for my needs in this R to be considered and that you have move on.
MRS OP"
Any comments on what I should do. I understand that these are just words there were no actions except the act of writing the letter to me.
