Definitely go with making a plan of action for H to deal with any fall out is the way to go! Also remind him that most people will see that he has been foolish but will be impressed that he has the get up and go and get back into his marriage and sort it out, instead of purpetuating his MLC.
We all want the fairytale ending personally I look at your thread and wish my H had some remorse and guilt but if he does he doesnt show it, and as H4L reminded me patience that is yet to come.. So accept he has to get it off his chest for a few weeks maybe a month and deal with it, although once he has been remorceful for a month I'd certainly be saying "its nice to hear you feel bad about what happened and I certainly have appreciated, but I do feel its holding us back now and you have to start to forgive yourself"
As for the funk embrass it for one day and then move on.. (()) as I got myself stuck in one for two days earlier this week.. You are doing so well go remind yourself how far you have come.. Good to hear that H and S are talking things through as well, its good for S to see H work through things it will help him with his growing up too!
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
