Looking for Advice

[Lost Rabbit]

Personally I wouldnt have answered while in the movie shop, its not the place to be having family conversations she should ring home later. I know you dont want to upset the girls but stop accomadating MrsGW by being a telephone answering machine.

Now the hard stuff, right you reckon she is contacting OM while she is away, imagine the worst conversation she is having, yes it will make you feel sick and bad, but try and feel it and own it and then accept it. This all sounds twee but when I thought my H had OW it seemed to work, once I'd accepted the fact that she could exist and that a whole lot of other things could be going on I managed to cope, obviously you will have to adapt this to how you can do it for YOU!

I hardly spoke to my H for a month went NC as it was the only way I could deal with things and he was only phoning me once a week so it wasnt hard, what was hard was keeping things to a minimum when he phoned. I did have to take our little cat to the vet when he was away and yes I told him, he loves her just as much as I did so felt it was right, but expect your W (who knows and trusts you still even if you dont feel the same for her) to just go ok I know doggie will be fine with you!

You ask how my H came back.. Out of the blue after about a month of very little contact (although he could ask S21 how I was) he emailed me and said he'd like to pop by, he was going to do his hobby on the sunday and could he stay the night! Well honestly I thought I was about to be told about OW and that it was D time but decided to fight hardball. So asked on here for advice, well the boys on here are so naughty and when aided and abetted by the girls they helped me produce the most fun day of my life since this all started lol. I had dropped another dress size since he last saw me so was now a sassy size 6/8, I knew he was coming on monday so shot off to the hairdressers and ordered a very sexy haircut, believe me I could have kissed my hairdresser when she finished. I bought some new clothes and some very naughty high heels, personally I think I had got rather too sensible in my dress sense..

When he came back I wasnt here, he txt to say he was home and I ignored it and came back an hour later looking fantastic and laughing on the phone to my mate about our dinner date the following evening, we chatted and I told him I'd been out to lunch with a male friend, he kept following me round the house and as Id left the fridge empty cos a) I was out for lunch and just needed a snack for tea, and b)Was doing the same the following day, he eventually had to take me out to eat lol! Well if I say so I was just fabulous, he tried to trip me up verbally so to speak and I let it roll off my back like the proverbial duck. Well at home we started to talk a bit but really advoiding any R talk and eventually well you know it worked lol!

He then started coming up for other things and gradually staying longer and longer and now after his last trip back this week he is back for good.. Sometimes this is like playing a game, so you will get a giggle when you get round something and other times you will have to rethink the strategy.. Us girls can pull naughties some times but I do think the georgous lingerie on airer and the posy of flowers on the cabinet started him thinking if I dont get her back she will find someone else..but who knows he was and still can be alien at times.

Good to hear you didnt txt back and that youve been shopping for you, oh and for the cologne make a joke of it use the loreal adverts "cos Im worth it" give her that old MrGW sexy smile and laugh and then walk away. Yes she will start to wonder who you worth what for but dont expect it to last to long at the moment but hang in there! Hope today is better for you (())