I guess my point is that counseling might help you detach enough to ride his rollercoaster less. Then you might make it longer or long enough for him to get better if you want that. I guess it would depend whether he actively seeks help and gets it and it works before you give up. GAL really helps. But it's difficult not to have your day ruined when they call you and then you feel hurt and bad all over again. Thus detachment I suppose. BUt you can't just wave the magic wand and make detachment happen unfortunately or I already would have.
