After reading back on some threads and seeing some advice and encouragement given regarding a WAW, there is something I would like to point out. Soleil has been so kind in helping LBS's on board, and I wanted to express my opinion about something b/c it sounds as if some of us may come behind what she said and reply with opposite advice.
Soleil is a WAW, and if I have understood her stitch.....the difference in Soleil and a WAW like me -- is that she left still wishing the M could work......but it was her H who was/is the butthead. A WAW like Soleil is........how shall I say?.......has a different "heart" than a WAW like "me"!
A WAW who leaves an abusive type R is just not like the cold, rebelious ....(insert a few other adjectives) women who are in A's (or even those who aren't having an A).
I hope Greek won't mind me using her as an example....(can't think of many others off hand).....but if I remember the story correctly, even Greek, who wasn't in an EA, had a different "heart", so to speak, from those who came from an environment like Soleil's stitch. So, what Soleil has often advised the LBH about his WAW would/could be applied to women in a stitch similiar to hers.
I guess the farther I go the worse I'm making this..... That wasn't my intent. I really wanted to let Soleil and everyone else know that I believe there are different types, attitudes, or "hearts" of the WAW and therefore the techniques might vary due to that. I don't want her or anyone to think that I am coming behind them and tearing down what they have tried to say to a newcomer.
I realize I've not been able to explain this like I wanted to and if it does make sense to any of you, would you let me know? OTOH, if I have confused the heck out of you, well you can let me know that also. And, Soleil, if you catch this, I hope you will understand what I'm saying and you will continue to be the encouragement to board memebers that you have been doing. You have a very sweet & encouraging word to newcomers....and they often need to hear that.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
That wasn't my intent. I really wanted to let Soleil and everyone else know that I believe there are different types, attitudes, or "hearts" of the WAW and therefore the techniques might vary due to that. I don't want her or anyone to think that I am coming behind them and tearing down what they have tried to say to a newcomer.
