My H and I were doing a little better. He has had some job issues which he always likes to discuss with me. I had asked him to hang out with me and I didn't expect him to come over but somehow when he called to turn me down I found myself having the R talk. I could see myself going there and couldn't seem to stop it!! I knew better yet I have been so mad because I feel used. He wants me to be there to discuss his problems yet, like you, I am the one to blame for his problems.
Here is my concern.....I think he convinces himself at times that I am the cause of his unhappiness but then there are times like tonight when he actually admitted that he has a lot of problems. So he wants me around to talk to at times and moves closer but I have to basically walk on eggshells, make sure I do nothing to upset him, and be happy go lucky even though my life is in the pits or he backs way off. So if I go dark I think he will back way off yet if I come forward he does like your H and takes me for granted and I end up feeling used!!! What is a person to do?!
