You have pegged him. I even told him tonight that I did not think he was in a place to make a decision on D. He sort of agreed with me. I also told him that it was not something you decide on a whim. He agreed but kept saying it can't be better and he doesn't know how to make it better.
When he moved out he hardly took any of his stuff and doesn't even care about it. Even his favorite ties. I know that sounds silly but my H loves to dress nice and has some tailored shirts which he also left.
When he filed for D he did exactly like you said. I found out later that he had hardly even talked to the attorney and had no major facts about what the D would entail.
I also told him tonight that I think he would stay in this situation....him living there and me here and not divorce for as long as I allowed it. He didn't say anything.
I do think there are times when he thinks if he gets a D it might wake him up! He want something to change but doesn't know what it is. I asked him if he thinks he is depressed and he said sometimes I think I am and other times I don't.
It is Crazy!!!
What are you doing in your situation? I feel bad for him and at the same time I am furious since there are days I definitely feel like he is depressed and other days I think he is just being mean. He does have a choice in this and I am sick of being the blame for everything!!
