Lucky - I know my gut is awesome. Part of the reason why H always thought I was snooping all the time. I wouldn't, but then I would get this feeling and I would check and there it all would be. It is crazy, but more and more I am trying to realize when my gut is telling me something because when I ignore it is when I get hurt. Being aware, kind of helped this time. I also agree I need to stop calling all the time. I know it is pushy, but I really wanted to know why. I only text him twice and I completely agree if it happens next month, I will just say thank you and that is it. I was just caught off guard this time.
As to the FB comments, I agree with CTH that he is just trying to keep a "good" relationship due to the fact that he will have to see my sister, her husband and my nephews quite often. WHo knows how all that will pan out, but it doesn't involve me so I don't need to worry about it. I have also learned to not plan very far ahead because when I do, the plans fail because right now I have no clue where I will be from month to month because life changes. H could be back, we could be divorcing, we could still be in this check mate. I don't know so no need to worry. Just live in teh here, and the here is good.
Last note, my inlaws called to do pizza. Not a problem so I went over there with S. My MIL said something about H having to do grades. He might have to do grades, but what that tells me is that he has not told his parents that he is not talking to me at all. He never even told them he moved back in, in October and left again so why tell them that after spending tons of time together over Christmas, he just dropped us. Still no divorce papers so maybe he isn't going to divorce me and maybe, just maybe (I doubt) he is getting help, but I doubt it. The only thing I am worried about is the only person he is talking to now is OW. He won't talk to his parents, or me so all that is left is her....not good for me, unless his college friend started talking to him, but they haven't talked much since they graduated, although they stay in touch. It just worries me more because he needs help and OW can't help him. There is no chance of change if OW is all that is in his life....
On to a fun filled weekend of sledding, sleeping, cleaning, and maybe shopping.
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