Originally Posted By: newmama
I have been through the "waves of love" for WH and then they are followed by "waves of NUMB" so that might come soon for you!


Oh, I've had them for a while. I haven't had the waves of deep love. The forgiving, warm, caring love that we had when together. Haven't really felt that since she left. It was unexpected but nice to feel.

Quote:
'when we stop fighting, we find time is on our side'

time is on our side because we stop caring when we stop fighting? So time doesn't matter? Is that what this quote means?[/quote]

I take it to mean once we let go and stop fighting the sitch, we get the benefit of time back. Time to take it easy, heal, mend, and decide what we want to do. We get patience. Or, as PDT says, 'embrace the suck'.

Watched the movie Mr Brooks tonight. Not sure if anybody has seen it but the first 'movie' scene is a couple making love on a bed and my thoughts turned to W and OM. I've read about little things triggering memories - that was one of those. But, with the sick feeling in my stomach, I just sucked it up and got on with it.

Last edited by P17; 01/16/10 02:26 AM.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y
Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010

"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient."
"Delay is the antidote for anger"