I want to encourage you to "not" go dark with us.... We want you to come talk to us as much as you feel the need. There are some wonderful people here and it takes a little bit for some to find you, but stick around and you will discover that this board will help you through some tough times.
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I miss my old husband and I miss my marriage.
I know you do. But, may I tell you something? As bad as it hurts, that man is missing in action. It's harsh to say, but I'm going to type these words b/c you need to face it....if you haven't already. The M you had is over. The man you fell in love with and was M to is gone. But, don't give up b/c even if there is a D.....it doesn't necessarily mean "the end". You can begin to hope for a new M and your H finding himself (in time) and someday building a life together. But if he's truly in MLC....then it will be hard to just "wait" around.
I hope you will start to build a life for you and your daughter and find joy and happiness apart from your H & apart from a R with him. You are an individual and you can grow and meet others. I realize that you aren't ready or don't want to hear that right now. I just don't want you to see going dark or detaching as giving up on your life. Okay?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
We want you to come talk to us as much as you feel the need. There are some wonderful people here and it takes a little bit for some to find you, but stick around and you will discover that this board will help you through some tough times.