Like you and many others, I "messed up" post bomb too. Not with OP or dating or anything, but by my reaction and behavior. Because of this and a list of past issues, H is monitoring my behavior and notices every tiny thing. I'm only mentioning this because I have made positive changes, but any negatives, however minor, are blown up as huge deals in his mind. So be aware that your H is likely doing this as well. Mine mentioned and magnified a few to me this week. It took him several weeks post the alleged "incidents" to mention them. But now I have confirmation he is monitoring for change at least. For whatever that's worth. Their lack of trust seems to make them want immediate perfection in you (even when they are not working on the same), and not merely a sixty percent positive change for the better in requested areas. Tall order in a short time period!
