I'm also at the point where H likes to discuss and vent at me occasionally. This is difficult because it is hard to tell if this is progress or whether he further upsets himself when he does this. He seems to withdraw for a day or more afterwards. He is not yet at the point where if he sees me for longer than an hour that he can not "go there", meaning vent his anger at me with a relationship talk. Do you think this venting will lead to further reminders of the existing bitterness between you two or will it help burn it away? Seems like some resentments can just get stuck on autoplay, so I'm not sure. Validating and listening does not always help to not inflame the anger.
