Wife wants best of both worlds

[Kemper]

If you met someone in the future would you tell your STBXW before the children met the person?

I am only asking because I am looking for your opinion since I honestly don't know if I would. I do know that it would take a long time for me to do it if I met someone amazing but I am not sure I would tell my STBXW.

Maybe it is the proper thing to do, I honestly have never thought about it until your post because I didn't think I would ever be in this situation to begin with.

On one hand I think it would be the right thing to do so if the children said anything to the ex they would already be prepared. The other part of me thinks that I would be grown-up enough to explain to my children before they met the person what was going on. Another reason I don't know is because my W never told me that she was going to introduce the boys to OM. Now granted I know she is in a fog and I am not trying to go tit for tat but it does sit in the back of my mind.